It’s bound to happen from time to time: moms get tired. We become worn out, and Lord knows we need a break. Earlier this year when I was suffering from severe adrenal fatigue, insomnia hit like a ton of bricks and I became a “mombie,” aka: really tired mom. I got desperate to sleep better.
I was taking forever to fall asleep and, occasionally, I had nights where I was awake more than I was asleep. If I was awakened by a child (or husband, ahem) soon after falling asleep, my heart would race and my system would go into a bit of a shock. Forget about falling back asleep anytime soon after that. I would often wake up through the night and have trouble falling back asleep then, too.
I couldn’t get through the day without a nap and spent my days stumbling around haphazardly. I know zombies aren’t real, but y’all, if they were, you’d have mistaken me for one. I had to figure out a way to sleep better.
I had tried melatonin once before, but ended up with the worst migraine of my life, so no way was I going to try it again. (Besides, Empowered Sustenance makes a pretty compelling case here about why you shouldn’t take melatonin.)
I decided to try some herbs I knew were effective for inducing restful sleep.
How I sleep better: my herbal “sleep bomb”
I already knew that valerian root was helpful for sleep, but I needed more. Here is my winning combo, aka my “sleep bomb:”
This stinky herb has been used historically to help with insomnia, as well as calming, and has even been shown to help with symptoms of obsessive compulsive disorder.
While I typically prefer to use herbal extracts and tinctures because of their easily-absorbed nutrients, I refuse to take valerian in tincture form. I’m not lying when I say it smells slightly (ok, a lot) like a dead… something. But- it IS effective for calming the nervous system, relieving tension and inducing sleep. Valerian root helps me sleep better. Get it here.
Last year I learned about passionflower, and how it soothes the nervous system. It can be especially helpful for kids with hyperactivity, as it increases GABA (gamma aminobutyric acid) in the brain, which inhibits stimulatory neuron activity. It is a very calming herb, that has been shown to help with anxiety as well.
When I added it to my nighttime herb routine, I noticed right away that began to I fall asleep faster and sleep better. Since passionflower has a light, syrup-y taste, I’m happy to take it in liquid form. Get it here.
Aside from the fact that I adore the earthy smell of lavender, which really makes me inner hippie child burst into song, I love the calming, soothing properties of the herb. I had a lavender tincture on hand from my herbalist friend, which I had bought in hopes that it would be calming for my hyperactive kid, as well as help my occasional headaches.
Lavender helps to relive tension, and can help with anxiety. It was the perfect compliment to my herbal repertoire. Get it here.
I decided to hit my insomnia with all of the calming herbs I had on hand, in hopes that I would soon sleep better.
I was amazed to find that the combination worked wonderfully, the first time I tried it!
How you can use my “sleep bomb” to sleep better:
Lavender: one dropper full
Passionflower: one dropper full
Valerian root: 2 capsules
Note: these dosages are for the exact products I’ve linked. Change in strength changes my needs, and I’ve had to increase my dosage when I’ve used different brands and strengths. These brands and dosages work great for me.
I take this herbal “sleep bomb” 30 minutes to an hour before I plan to go to bed, and I get sleepy by the time I hit the sheets. It is such a relief to not toss and turn, waiting, no begging for sleep to come.
I have been using this combo of herbs for about five months, and I have had a huge improvement in my quality of sleep. I just sleep better when I make sure to take my herbs. Plus, if I run out of any one herb, the remedy is not as effective; I’ve found that the combination of the three is really the key to helping me sleep better.
Other things you can try to sleep better:
- Avoid sugar and starchy foods in the evening.
- Eat a balanced diet.
- Turn off electronics or use blue light blocking glasses in the hours before bed.
- Wind down before bed; try taking a hot epsom salt bath, reading, or even coloring.
As one of Kelly’s readers recently wrote to her: “I pre-ordered your sleep book hoping it would finally help me without resorting to medications. I’ve been dealing with insomnia for months. I’ve tried every wives tale and supplement to help me sleep through the night. At first I would find relief but before long I was staring at the ceiling at night feeling hopeless. I was at the point where I was going to ask my Doctor to give me Suvorexant. Then I got your book and I read through it in one night. I was 100% focused on doing what you suggested and I loved that the information you shared was not complicated or hard to follow. I will be honest, I didn’t think it would work but it did. The first couple nights were tough but I’ve had amazing sleep 5 nights out of the week, which is HUGE for me. For the first time I am rested and ready for each day. I can see how my mood and emotional state are affected by sleep. I also find myself eating less during the day! You have changed my life and I don’t know how I can repay you! Thank you!”
The Sleep Miracle breaks down the science of sleep, helping you to understand why you struggle to sleep well and what you can do to sleep better. The coolest part is that the last section of the book features grown-up coloring pages you can use to wind down before bed.
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